There's no harm, but it's not a solution that comes readily to mind. I've always been the one in charge or the one required to have everything together for the sake of others. Starting the whole process with a question simply doesn't occur to me.
[And why would it? There's been no reason for her to do that when everything was different in Ragneux or when she was so certain of herself and her place here in Duplicity. Everything's simply different now compared to what it was when she first arrived.]
Could it not now? [He doubts he's the first to have made some version of this argument to her.
Getting one's way to trying something new, or thinking in new ways, means counteracting old habits deliberately, but all of that starts with knowing the possibility exists.]
[He's not saying anything she doesn't already know. Having it thrown at her for a text she didn't send makes it more uncomfortable, though.]
Some self-reliance is important, too. To set is aside completely is to make oneself helpless.
[She refuses to feel like that again. She'd rather struggle to ask for help than be forced to give up all control and self-sufficiency in the name of getting "better."]
I do understand you mean well with pushing for me to seek out the help I inevitably need before I hit the point of struggling, but as you say, it's difficult to do. All I can do at this point is keep the idea in mind and attempt to force it to happen. All else is out of my hands until it becomes habit.
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mattersofscience) wrote2016-05-31 10:57 pm
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[And why would it? There's been no reason for her to do that when everything was different in Ragneux or when she was so certain of herself and her place here in Duplicity. Everything's simply different now compared to what it was when she first arrived.]
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Getting one's way to trying something new, or thinking in new ways, means counteracting old habits deliberately, but all of that starts with knowing the possibility exists.]
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[Not an easy thing after a lifetime of being certain has told her to follow her instincts and handle everything that comes after whenever it arrives.]
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Not that it's as easy to do as it is to say. There are many reasons total self-reliance isn't as simple as that to break down and change.
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Some self-reliance is important, too. To set is aside completely is to make oneself helpless.
[She refuses to feel like that again. She'd rather struggle to ask for help than be forced to give up all control and self-sufficiency in the name of getting "better."]
I do understand you mean well with pushing for me to seek out the help I inevitably need before I hit the point of struggling, but as you say, it's difficult to do. All I can do at this point is keep the idea in mind and attempt to force it to happen. All else is out of my hands until it becomes habit.
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I agree; Keeping it in mind is where any self-improvement like this begins.
Whatever path you do end up walking, I wish you luck with it.
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Be well, Charles. Let me know if you'd like to have a drink again sometime. I'm certain we'll speak again soon.